Which Sexual Fantasies are Common and Which Ones are Truly Rare?
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About the Event
“Are my sexual fantasies normal?” Many of us have had this thought at one time or another, in part, because what we’ve been told is “normal” when it comes to sex is very limited. When we think our fantasies are unusual or abnormal, it’s all too easy to feel ashamed, embarrassed, or guilty about them. This anxiety, in turn, can contribute to a wide range of sexual and relationship difficulties. More often than not, however, this anxiety is unwarranted and these difficulties are preventable. In this presentation, we will explore which sexual fantasies are common and which ones are truly rare based on data from the largest and most comprehensive survey of sexual fantasies ever undertaken in the United States (N = 4,175) as well as a follow-up replication study (N = 1,969). The results reveal seven major themes that characterize sexual fantasies, some of which have long been categorized as “paraphilic” (i.e., unusual) by the mental health community, including BDSM. These findings challenge us to rethink what is “normal” when it comes to sex and they have important practical and clinical implications. This presentation will also briefly address changes in sexual fantasy frequency and content during the COVID-19 pandemic and explore the ways in which our fantasies are shaped, in part, by environmental factors.
By the end of this session, participants will be able to:
1) Identify the seven most common themes present in people’s sexual fantasies.
2) Identify psychological factors that underlie the most popular sexual fantasies.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs.
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